Most sought after...
after reading blogs, talking to friends, and making my own observations, it's intriguing to ask: which traits do people look for in an other for an intimate relationship? It appears that, for the most part, what we look for changes over our life span. What we look for in a partner in our teens differ than when we are 20's, 30's, and on and on.
yet, there are traits that people always go for: appearance, for one, is probably the most popular one. Physical attraction, love-at-first-sight, the eye candy. Appearance is the deceiving one at times. Easy to "see" but not always as appeared to be.
Sense of humor. that is also popular. after all, we can all use a good laugh.
Intelligence. this one is tricky. Because do people equate intelligence with the ability to make money? or intelligence for making rational decisions and being able to engage in thoughtful conversations? If I remember correctly, nerds/geeks aren't exactly the popular crowd in high school...
obviously, the aforementioned traits aren't the only ones people seek. They are most talked about.
You never hear someone say they are looking for the most unintelligent, most unappealing, and the dullest person as companions. Perhaps, the traits we look for reflect our own traits and how we view them. maybe they could be traits that we want to emulate. Or maybe... we want to feel good about ourselves.
what do you look for?
after reading blogs, talking to friends, and making my own observations, it's intriguing to ask: which traits do people look for in an other for an intimate relationship? It appears that, for the most part, what we look for changes over our life span. What we look for in a partner in our teens differ than when we are 20's, 30's, and on and on.
yet, there are traits that people always go for: appearance, for one, is probably the most popular one. Physical attraction, love-at-first-sight, the eye candy. Appearance is the deceiving one at times. Easy to "see" but not always as appeared to be.
Sense of humor. that is also popular. after all, we can all use a good laugh.
Intelligence. this one is tricky. Because do people equate intelligence with the ability to make money? or intelligence for making rational decisions and being able to engage in thoughtful conversations? If I remember correctly, nerds/geeks aren't exactly the popular crowd in high school...
obviously, the aforementioned traits aren't the only ones people seek. They are most talked about.
You never hear someone say they are looking for the most unintelligent, most unappealing, and the dullest person as companions. Perhaps, the traits we look for reflect our own traits and how we view them. maybe they could be traits that we want to emulate. Or maybe... we want to feel good about ourselves.
what do you look for?
